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| Description: |
| Ask Yourself Questions and Change Your Life describes the process of change as a journey that begins in the “Land of Wish-and-Want.” This is where we live until we are pushed, pulled or prodded by pain to move beyond our comfort zone. Initially hoping our problems will go away, we eventually decide to answer the “call to action” and often seek experts to tell us what to do. A more direct approach is to discover our own path for how to proceed. We can do this by asking ourselves questions that help us uncover our strengths, draw upon past success, and choose a doable goal toward which we can move. Eventually we have the answers we need to pass through a “gate to change” that leads to the “Land of Will-Do.”
The author approaches the topic of change not only through questions, but also through unusual metaphors that open the mind to new possibilities. For example, one metaphor is that of being weighted down by an invisible, highly expandable “backpack” in which we keep our goals and dreams, our resentments and grudges. Fortunately, in order to explore what is in our backpacks, we have access to a “room with a view” where we can set aside our egos, get in touch with our true selves, and ask ourselves questions that lead to purposeful living. |
Author Biography: |
| Arlene Harder is a licensed marriage and family therapist who enjoyed a private practice for more than twenty years in Pasadena, California. Out of her work with parents of grown children, and personal experience with her son, she authored Letting Go of Our Adult Children: When What We Do Is Never Enough. After co-founding two nonprofit organizations for cancer patients and their families, she created three websites for which she writes extensively and for which she designs questions for the Q-and-A Club. |
Reviews/Endorsements: |
| "A thoughtful, complex, layered look at how we change and what we need to do to create change in our lives. Arlene Harder gently, wisely and sensitively takes the reader along every step of the way, providing just the right questions, tools and approaches to make the journey fulfilling and satisfying.” —Belleruth Naparstek, MA, MFT, author of Invisible Heroes and creator of the Health Journeys audio series “Arlene has expressed the art of purposeful living with the clear “Arlene Harder has written a “Arlene Harder offers a method for engaging the reader that is missing in so many personal-growth books. The simple, but not simplistic, questions she poses encourage an interaction between the thoughts of the reader and the information presented. Thus “There have often been times, earlier in my life, when I could have used the blueprint to change that is described in this book, but nothing like this was available. Fortunately, my latest and best decisions have been determined through the careful step-by-step “Every once-in-awhile a personal-growth book provides a refreshingly “In attempting to make a personal change, many people thrash about willy-nilly, stumbling along a poorly marked path. The could use a strong dose of Arlene Harder’s remarkable book which helps a ‘change-seeker’ move from haphazard to clearer directions for bringing about a desired change. People can find doorways |
